Echo Chambers

I’m down to 30-ish friends. The rest have been unfriended for being racists, homophobes, rape apologist dude-bros, nasty little misogynists, idiots who claim the Civil War wasn’t about slavery and the Confederate flag isn’t a symbol of hate and division, and/or Trump supporters.

It’s refreshing to have a FB timeline that isn’t full of nutty nutter bullshit from privileged white persons (mostly males) and the pretzel-defying contortions they fold themselves into to deny all facts while pointing “but look over there!”

However, putting ourselves in an echo chamber is actually not that great of an idea. To only surround ourselves with those who think almost identically to ourselves while shunning all others who have opposite views creates an extremely polarized society. Hence, our current predicament.

I try hard to argue with myself about this, and I can’t help but feel somewhat annoyed by my consistent swing back to “but these people simply live in a fantasy world.” I contort myself into the same pretzel-defying logic that others do just to try and find myself at fault, for being no better than they are for refusing to even listen to them anymore.

It sucks. A lot of people I grew up with are now outside of my echo chamber. A lot of people I really liked and/or respected are now persons of suspect intelligence, moral views, and what I fear are ideologies based on tainted propaganda designed specifically to separate those who are susceptible to such incredulous beliefs even though factual evidence is literally beating them over the head.

But, at the end of each torture session, I still cannot accept the friendship or sincerity of anyone who believes whites are superior to all other races (insert various twisting and pretzeling about why blacks commit crimes, do drugs, have 17 babies, you know the drill).
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Stop Rape Culture: Teach Your Sons That NO MEANS NO.

Parents, teach your boys/young men that NO MEANS NO. Stop blaming women/victims.

It doesn’t matter how much she’s had to drink.
It doesn’t matter how short her skirt was.
It doesn’t matter how much of her tits were showing.
It doesn’t matter if she initially said yes then changed her mind.
It doesn’t matter about anything other than when she says no, it means STOP.

If you think this is a bunch of bullshit, imagine your mother, your sister, your wife or girlfriend, someone close to you being sexually assaulted, and tell me you still think rape isn’t a ‘big deal.’ Imagine the rage you’d feel, how you’d want to probably go murder the rapist, or at the least, put him in the hospital.

If you know this is going on and you choose to do nothing, you are just as guilty as the person committing the actual crime. Again, think of your mother, your grandmother, sister, wife, girlfriend, niece, any female that you are close to. You’d want to beat the shit out of someone for rape/sexual assault without even knowing if it was true or not when it involved someone you care about.

Why should someone you don’t know or don’t care about be subject to such a crime when you could have prevented it?

Fuck Patriarchy.

Fuck Patriarchy.

Teach your boys to not rape or sexually assault or even pressure anyone. Any other reply/answer to this other than “okay” means you trivialize women and the horrendous act of rape.

In fact, don’t counter with any other argument unless you want everyone to know that you support rape culture and refuse to teach your boys how to be real men instead of rapists.

How would you feel as a parent if your precious boy was arrested for rape/sexual assault? Would you blame it on the victim?

And while you’re at it, maybe teach them that if they see some shit like this going on, to STEP UP and be a man and put a fucking stop to it. Too many stories involve a bunch of dipshit dude-bros standing around egging someone on, or just not doing anything to stop it.

This isn’t society’s fault. This is the fault of parents not teaching their sons that this is an abhorrent crime that should NEVER be committed,  and it should NEVER be tolerated if they know it is happening.